“So being the second born, I fought my elder brother a lot. I don’t know if I am the only one who did this, but ‘I no respect am samsam’.

“So being the second born, I fought my elder brother a lot. I don’t know if I am the only one who did this, but ‘I no respect am samsam’.
“So being the second born, I fought my elder brother a lot. I don’t know if I am the only one who did this, but ‘I no respect am samsam’.

‘I no dey answer am if he send me anything’. If he tells me to watch the plates, I will ask him, “what will you now do”? It was always a fight.

But the turning point was when he gained admission into the university and I was seeing less of him. I began to miss him. And when he comes back from school after many months, I just find myself not saying no to many of the things he would ask me to do. But majorly what brought about the change was new status and growth-Then the interest in the gists of school, the independent life over there; allowing me follow him out to hang out with his friends who are also in school since he has the freedom, this was everything to me.

And then, when I had a girlfriend, he was the first I informed. He would advise me and allow me wear his fine clothes and shoes.

And then, the respect started coming naturally. I dare not call him by name again. I added “brother” to his name.

And when things weren’t going well in the family (financially) and I needed to be away from home. He was there for me. Occasionally, he would send money and wears to keep us. While he was trying to make out something for himself also, he never forgets me.

That was how he assumed the small Dad position. Still looking out for me and making sure I am on the right part. Not forgetting the unending advise like say I can’t think on my own to make the right decisions 😀

And when I wanted to get married, he was the first I informed. He was the one who came around, together with me,bought every item listed by the bride’s family. He got me 3 cars (1 was his) for the whole engagement and wedding which was conveyed by the family. He literally drove me for the whole 2 days we spent in my wife’s hometown and back to Lagos where we lodged for honey moon.

Through out this period, he wasn’t married himself. But I felt a complete father figure presence. And for the first time, I called him Dad, 2015. And yes he is.
9 months later he got wedded also.

A post I read on firstborn inspired this.

Firstborn- special breed!

May God bless all the first born.

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